I am a believer, based on my own personal and professional perspective that I need to clear the detritus of previous encounters in order to build anew.
Rationale: Does s/he have any big plans for dramatic life changes you don’t know about? Rationale: Is the person excessively dependent, needy, or incompetent, or does s/he perceive themselves that way? Wired for Love: How Understanding Your Partner’s Brain and Attachment Style Can Help You Defuse Conflict and Build a Secure Relationship The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country’s Foremost Relationship Expert ACT with Love: Stop Struggling, Reconcile Differences, and Strengthen Your Relationship with Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Note: Of course there are other important dating questions related to finances, children etc but I wanted to make a list of psychology-related dating questions.
They range from not knowing the person in the mirror well enough to being disillusioned by the person on the other side of the bed.
While it would be easy to maintain my professional objectivity, what remains with me that is fodder for this post is how deeply and profoundly the concepts presented touch on my own journey.
This question is extremely important and often difficult to answer, especially if a relationship has already become too physical.
Many of my patients have asked me when it is appropriate for them to find out crucial information about someone they are thinking of continuing to date.