Now, I have been dating this guy (pre-med, kind of nerdy, logical, strategic type of guy) for two years. He is smart, consistent, predictable and incredibly faithful. He has been very intentional with my parents and with his desire to love and cherish only me. There is no "magic," and I feel I could logically live without him if we broke up.I love him very much, but we do not have the same "chemistry" that I shared with the first person. I just saw the first guy again this week and was reminded again how strong the chemistry is between us.And what most of us have discovered is that because of the intensity of these feelings, you may completely end up ignoring your partner’s bad qualities.Chemistry allows us to sweep under the rug the fact that he’s a selfish asshole or that she’s a crazy bitch…and later justify this behavior and fight to stay in broken relationships that make us unhappy.This is why I have long advocated putting compatibility up on the same pedestal as chemistry, and perhaps elevate it even higher.Simply put: A relationship with a 7 chemistry and a 10 compatibility is a happy marriage.She decided that "chemistry occurred most often between people who are down-to-earth and sincere".This is because "if a person is comfortable with themselves, they are better able to express their true self to the world, which makes it easier to get to know them..if perspectives on important matters differed." Sharing similarities is also deemed essential to chemistry as "feeling understood is essential to forming relational bonds." The various manifestations of chemistry are: sexual chemistry, romantic chemistry, emotional chemistry, activity chemistry, team performance chemistry, creative chemistry, intellectual chemistry, and empowerment chemistry".
Other physical symptoms include "blood pressure go[ing] up a little, the skin...flush[ing], the face and ears...turn[ing] red and...[a] feeling of weakness in the knees".Three years ago, I fell madly in love with this lively, fascinating guy (plays in a band, popular, surprises you at work with chocolate, picks you wild flowers type of guy).We had similar thoughts and passions and were able to understand each other incredibly well.He could read me like no one else, inspired me, and made me think and laugh and cry.We had dynamic "chemistry" — the unexplainable connection that movies and songs are made of.